I really need your help and advice about taking a job that may affect my livelihood. I am an RN that is sooo confused! Please help, if you can!

Back story: I have been working at a psychiatric group home for over a year as the nursing supervisor. The job wasn't great, the pay was lousy, and the hours sucked. But it was 5 minutes from home, I loved my patients, and my boss was a good friend of mine. I worked very hard at my job, was on call 24/7, but it still wasn't enough for the owner. They wanted me to work more for less and I became of tired of promises of raises and it getting better next month and next month. I got their state licenses for them, filled the facility with patients, and ran the nursing dept. But no thanks or raise or anything. So I found another job.

Now, I am working at a hospital, psychiatric unit for 6 mths now, that is about 40 minutes from my home and the pay was double what I was making at the group home. But I have even worse working hours, I work 8-10 days straight with only 2 days off. But the hospital has great benefits, good insurance, decent pay, and good co-workers you can depend on. But the drive is long and the hours suck bad.

So, today, my old boss at the group home, calls and asks me what it would take to get me back. She has already offered me $25 per hr (more than I make now), M-F, become the DON, insurance, and paid vacation. I told her everything would have to be in writing and it would have to start the day I do. But I fear that if I take this job back, even with the benefits, I will still be in the same boat I was in when I left. On call, stupid requests from the bosses, called in at all hours, lousy co-workers, and the owner still wanting more and more of me because they are "giving" me more.

I loved my patients and my boss, but the facility owner was too demanding and always wanting more than any one person can possibly give. But it was close to home, and they are willing to meet my demands. As with my current job at the hospital, I am the new person, and I get the crappy jobs and crappy hours with no say in how they work my schedule and I have been having to do 8-10 days straight with no time off and driving 40 minutes one way, 10 hour shifts per day.

Sorry, it was so long, but I really need some advice and I am having trouble seeing past my options. Do I go where I am at home and have authority but the owner treats me like crap? Or do I stay at a hospital where I am nobody with no say in my career, just do what we say and let the tenured nurses set my schedule and when I can have time off or NOT. The tenured nurses set their schedule then I get what days are left. And yes, I have talked to my supervisor…she allows the nurses to set the schedules.

Ok so i work for a bunch of psychos. quick story: i’ve been here a year, i do HR and purchasing, scheduling for construction type co. owned by two men and wife, office manager is one mans son, my new boss is other mans son. my old boss thought they were selling co. so he quit back in sept. i thought they were to so i had found a new job, went there was the accountant, discovered they dont pay all bills in full, and were operating in the red for over a year, decided not to take job. my old/current job offered me $1 more to stay so i did. They didn’t end up selling co. Well my new boss (one of the owners sons) has lost his temper already (in less then a month!) and started screaming, cussing and calling me names. 2 hours later he came back apologized about his behavior, said it was unacceptable, etc. now being the ONLY FEMALE employee I am somehow responsible for cleaning the offices, and washing the glass doors to the building. well i had yesterday off. i came in today with a pile of paperwork and messages, and a note on the middle of my monitor from the wife saying she wants it cleaned daily! first thing! well i vaccummed, i couldn’t sweep cause she locked the broom in her office, and i forgot about glass. though i cleaned it later. She threatened to fire me over it! they gave me a raise to stay and now they treat me like crap! well ive been applying to jobs, but many havent closed yet, etc. there is a co. in town that will hire ANYBODY to answer phones in a call center for credit card point redemption, well they treat their employees bad, their turnover rate is high, they dont rehire once you quit, and many employers around town view them as not real work experience. But they will pay me the same as i make now, work around my college schedule, and offer overtime hours during holidays. Should i go apply there? i’ve been saving applying there, and i know they will hire me, for when i get fired from a job, laid-off whatever, and desperately need a job, they are my fall back. well at my current work they have made me cry twice in the last 2 weeks! im major stressed. should i quit to work for this other crappy co.? or should i wait to hear from a different company and in the mean time wait it out, to either find something better, or get fired? i’ve never been fired before (I’ve worked for 5 years different jobs, never been fired, i’m a good worker!). do i wait it out, hope i get one of the many better jobs i applied for? or go apply at the crappy co? i’m worried if i go to the crappy job, then get a better one and quit, they wont rehire me and what happens if i ever desperately need a job?! i like having it as my fallback. so should i stick it out? or go apply? im worried about being fired, because i’d hate to have that mark on my resume, and this job stresses me out seriously! but i like having a fall back! what do you think?

The last job I worked before going to school full time was Warehouse manager at a large and very busy construction warehouse. It really tested my ability to do A LOT of things. Things like inventory management, receiving, sending material to jobs, making sure large tools and machines used for work are in working condition, and I would setup large flatbeds with these materials for my warehouse crew to ship out. I also was responsible for a fleet of at least 13 vehicles which most of them was in garbage condition so work constantly needed to be done on them; If a vehicle broke down, I would have to go pick it up get it towed, and it could be on my days off where I am needed in an emergency like that.

I thought I did extremely well, and the boss wanted to raise my salary 4$ already and said he wanted to do a 3 month review instead of 6.

The reason why I left without notice is because my boss would consistently micromanage me, breath down my neck, and would honestly start getting so disrespectful with me, then he would realize what he said an hour later and apologize for it over an espresso. His bipolar activities with me were making me hate the job. I loved everything I was doing, I was having so much fun doing it and I was killing it, but he continued to become a weight on my shoulders. His micromanagement was completely unnecessary, and his disrespect followed by his bipolar attitude made me question the future of the job, and finally I just told him I quit. This last job was also my most recent job, I haven't been to work since last summer, because I want to finish school faster. I am soon graduating and want to find a job now while I do my last 2 semesters next year. This is my best experience I've ever had and I'm not sure if I should reference it on my resume..